We have almost everything taken care of for the wedding. It's been an interesting road.
If you've never planned a wedding, then you won't understand why it's such an exhaustive process. You see, everyone has a perfect image in their minds about what a perfect wedding should look like. And it almost never does look that way in the end result. And if you've never planned a gay wedding, then just give up right now. It's all the stress of a straight wedding with an extra layer of "what? two grooms? how does that work" piled on top.
It's like a lot of little committee meetings to make things happen for what's supposed to be one of the biggest days of my life. We've got family drama, church drama, national institutional drama and any other kind of drama you can think of. Fortunately, we don't have Tim and Paul drama, except the good kind.
I'm very happy to be marrying Tim. I'm disappointed that neither my mom nor my dad will be coming. Many members of my extended family will be here, and others have sent regrets. I could bore you for weeks with the politics that go on in the Adams family.
My cousin Janne said something to me that I found very heartening. She stated quite simply "It seems pretty clear from the posts I see on FaceBook that you have chosen to marry into a loving family. I am very happy for you." My immediate family has been completely silent on the matter.
So while I won't have my mom to give me away, I will be surrounded by very close friends and lots of my church family. I'll also be surrounded by my new and very loving family, the Ungers.
It's often been said that we don't get to choose our family. I am very fortunate in that I have been able to do just that.
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Congratulations, mazel tov, jour joyeux and all that! I must say that families tend to treat weddings the way that they treat anything new… they'll believe and accept it when they see the results. Just give them a little time to see how happy it makes you. They'll come around eventually.
I wish you both many happy returns of the day.
May you be blessed with more love than you can handle and more joy than you can keep to yourselves.
Paul, You know that Ron and I always have wished the best for you. I cannot tell you how happy I am for you and Tim. Ultimately the details do not matter. In the long run,You and Tim will succeed. People will see your commitment.I wish that I could be with you both.
Great way of thinking about it, Paul. I look forward to being one of the attendees and witnesses to your special day. :)